• A number of times characters talk about blowjobs and masturbating. A couple of scenes in a bedroom, but no sex or nudity though.


Film review:Translated by www.rabudo-ru.com


Professor Lambert of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) is a well-known figure in the field of mathematics. He won the fields prize known as the “Nobel Prize in mathematics”. He left a difficult problem for the college students in his class. The problem was written on the blackboard in the corridor and said to see who can give the answer before the end of the semester.

Look who can give the answer before the end of the semester. The real meaning of Professor Lambert’s sentence is that I don’t believe any of you can give the answer. After all, as a top figure in mathematics, it took him a long time to find the answer.

But within two days, the answer appeared on the blackboard. However, this person does not want to appear, although it can enjoy a rare honor to appear.

Professor Lambert left a second problem in the afternoon. It took him and his partner two years to solve it.

Similarly, within two days, the “mysterious mathematical genius” gave the answer again. This time, Professor Lambert saw the figure of “mysterious mathematical genius” and found that he was a cleaner in the building of MIT, a top university, but the cleaner didn’t want to be found. He ran away while abusing the professor.

This is the beginning of the famous psychological video “mind catcher”. Seeing this plot, a sentence came out of my mind that the world is divided. MIT’s brilliance was completely covered by a frustrated cleaner.

However, the division of the external world originates from the division of the heart. This frustrated boy, in fact, only does the “right thing” to solve mathematical problems and read books in a few spare time outside of work. In most spare time, he fights, steals and even assaults the police with several problematic young people. Among them, his best skill is to go to MIT or Harvard University to “settle a fool in three minutes”.

The divided boy’s name is will. When Rambo finds will, will has been put in prison for fighting and assaulting the police, but Rambo applies for bail as will’s guardian. There are two conditions for bail: first, will wants to cooperate with Rambo to solve mathematical problems; 2、 Will wants to see a psychologist.

Will doesn’t want to see a psychologist, but he doesn’t want to go to jail. He had to promise to be a patient.

However, as a gifted patient, will chased off five psychologists in succession. Finally, Lambert found his undergraduate classmate and now psychology professor Sean to treat will.

Similarly, will stabbed Sean in the first meeting. He saw Sean’s state of mind at that time through his observation of Sean’s painting. Sean’s painting is a man who paints a boat alone in the surging sea. In this regard, will saw two attributes. He said to Sean, first, you were in the storm, and second, you married the “wrong woman”.

Sean was angered. He warned will not to insult his dead wife. When will said “yes, you did marry the wrong woman” again, Sean was angry. He rushed up and grabbed will’s neck and threatened that if you said that again, I would kill you.

Will was shocked. In the past, when he teased the psychologists, they first panicked, then covered up their anger, and then refused to continue to treat him. But Sean was different. He was also stabbed, but he expressed his anger directly. What’s more, the man who was stabbed and angered promised to continue his treatment.

This is a key point in psychotherapy, or in all intimate relationships.

Each of us has a set of fixed logic. We believe that some of our characteristics are “good self”, which can maintain and promote the development of the relationship, while some of our characteristics are “bad self”, which will lead to the alienation or even the end of a relationship.

Therefore, when we want to be close to a person, we will show “good me” and deliberately suppress “bad me”. When we want to alienate a person, we will show “bad me” instead of “good me”.

For example, when a dependent wants to be close to a person, he will be very dependent, sometimes called “cute”. On the contrary, when a dominator wants to be close to a person, he will show a very capable side.

At this time, if that person gets caught, really gets close to us when we show “good self” and ends the relationship with us when we show “bad self”, it means that our logic has been strengthened again.

This is the root of our psychological problems. For example, the dependent will always find that the reason why others do not accept him seems to be because he is not dependent enough, while the dominator will find that the reason why others do not accept him seems to be because he is not powerful enough. Therefore, whenever we encounter a crisis, we will further strengthen our logic, which leads to our becoming more and more rigid.

If treatment can play a role, the key point is that the psychologist helps the client understand that he does not have to be so persistent to that logic, that is, his “good self” does not necessarily promote the relationship, and his “bad self” does not necessarily alienate the relationship.

Will’s logic is that “genius” is a bad me and “mediocrity” is a good me. In fact, he believes that genius can’t exchange intimacy in a relationship, but mediocrity can do it. Whenever he shows his genius, he is alienating and even ending a relationship most of the time. Therefore, we can see that his cleverness has been used to stimulate psychologists, “settle a fool in three minutes” and so on.

It can also be said that he actually hates his genius. He doesn’t want others to accept him because he is a genius. He prefers others to accept him just because of him.

The five psychologists all won will’s trick. When will expressed his genius in a bad way, they all broke off their relationship with him. Sean is different. It seems that he also won will’s trick. He was stabbed and even more painful. But instead of breaking off his relationship with will, he chose to sincerely reveal his heart.

When Sean did this, will’s world was being overturned. For the first time, Wilhelm found that expressing anger sincerely did not mean the end of the relationship.

During the second meeting, will’s world was further overturned. Sean first admitted that will did hurt him and kept him awake all night, but in this pain, Sean thought a lot.

Although he always used his cleverness in attack, will was proud of his cleverness. However, Sean said to him, “when I see you, I don’t see smart and confident. What I see is a frightened and stupid arrogant child.”

Sean understood that will’s arrogant intelligence and self-confidence was just a defense against pain. This defense is a wall, so that will only dare to establish a relationship with books, not directly with the world. Before saying this, Sean also said a shocking sentence:

You’re just a child. You don’t know what you’re talking about.

Ask you about art, you may put forward the superficial arguments in art books. You know a lot about Michelangelo. He is full of political enthusiasm, he has a strong relationship with the Pope, and he is obsessed with sex. Do you know him very well? But do you know the smell of Sistine church? Have you ever tried standing there and looking up at the famous paintings on the ceiling? You haven’t seen it, have you?

If I ask about women, you can tell me all about them. You may have been in bed several times, but you can’t tell the real joy when you wake up next to a woman.

You are young and tough. If I talk about the war with you, you may throw Shakespeare at me and recite “go to the battlefield together, dear friend”, but you have never been in the battle in person, never tried to hold your best friend’s head in your arms, watched him take his last breath, stared at you and asked you for help.

I ask you what love is. You may talk about the wind and the moon, but you haven’t tried to throw yourself into it with all your heart. When you exchange your eyes, you understand each other’s hearts. It’s like God arranged an angel to come down to earth only to save you from the abyss of hell. You’ve never tried your feelings of care for her. You’ve never tried to be deeply committed to her, Knowing that she is terminally ill, you never try to lose your loved one

Sean continued, don’t think I know you. Maybe I can see you through knowledge, but that’s not you. Unless you’re willing to talk about yourself, I don’t know who you are.

After saying these words, Sean put down a sentence “it’s your turn now”. This sentence means that I am willing to face you sincerely, but are you ready to face me sincerely?

Sean’s words also hurt will, or shocked will. For the first time, the “right people” were so honest with him, and his previous tricks against these people no longer seemed to work. So, are you willing to take a risk? Really confide in a psychologist?

Eventually, will chose to continue.

Subtitle:

Choosing to continue is a will, which means will is willing to try to change, but it takes time from this initial will to reveal his heart. Therefore, in the next two treatments, will fell silent for a long time.

When will was silent, Sean was as silent. He never spoke first, but waited for will to speak.

This silence has two meanings. First, he’s telling will that you have the right to silence. Second, will has to decide whether to reveal his heart or not, rather than being seduced or pressured by a psychologist.

Finally, after playing the “stare game” for a long time, will took the initiative to speak. This means that the treatment has officially begun.

The first topic after the formal start of treatment is love. Sean asked will, are you in love? Will replied yes, but he was a little afraid to go on.

Why? Sean asked. Will replied, “now she’s perfect. I don’t want to destroy it.”

In this regard, Sean said: “maybe you think you are perfect and you don’t want to destroy… This is an excellent philosophy. You can never know people all your life.”

This is why countless people hesitate in love. It seems that we think each other is too perfect, so we dare not approach or destroy this fantasy, but in fact, we are afraid that our imperfections will be seen by each other.

When I was in college, I made a telephone psychological hotline. A boy who claimed to be very handsome called me and said that he was lovelorn and very painful. But this lovelorn is his choice. He went shopping with a beautiful woman. The beautiful woman suddenly said, wait for me. He waited for a long time and didn’t see the beauty come back. Then he suddenly realized that the beauty was defecating. At the thought of such a beautiful beauty defecating, he couldn’t stand it, so he turned away.

The implicit truth in this story is that the “beauty” of beautiful women and the “handsome” of handsome men are “good me”. The reason why they can be accepted by others is the “good me” in appearance. Once there is an “ugly” bad me, they will not get love and recognition in the relationship. Therefore, the boy turned away. It seems that he can’t accept the fact that beautiful women also defecate, but in fact, he can’t accept that he is also ugly.

How to let the client put down his attachment to this logic in the treatment? Psychologists can expose the trick behind the logic of visitors, but it’s too blunt to do so.

So Sean told himself a story after quietly exposing will’s game. He said that his wife farted very badly. Once, he was awakened by his wife’s fart. Then, his dog barked. Finally, his wife herself was awakened and asked him if you were farting. Sean said yes.

When Sean told the story, he couldn’t help laughing wildly, and will couldn’t help laughing. After telling the story, Sean explained that truth is beauty. “Imperfection is a good thing. It can choose who enters my world… Your girl is also imperfect. The key is whether you are suitable.”

After the consultation, will immediately went to see his favorite girl, skylan of Harvard University.

Subtitle:

Will and skylan met at a bar at Harvard University. At that time, will and his three best friends – none of them had the chance to go to College – went to the bar to “pick up girls” on the one hand, and to continue will’s best game – “settle a fool in three minutes”, and he was the world’s most famous undergraduate “fool”.

Will succeeded on both sides. Will’s strongest friend Chuck pretended to be a history student to chat up with the beauty skylan, but Harvard student Clark saw that chuck was a fake, so he came to test chuck’s history knowledge, but was humiliated by the rescued will.

Will not only humiliated Clark, who regarded himself as a Harvard student, but also won the favor of skylan. They had a spark for the first time.

A love relationship is a deeper relationship than a therapeutic relationship. Since will dare not establish a relationship with a psychologist, he has no courage to establish a real relationship with the girl he loves. In other words, this is a more difficult challenge.

Inspired by Sean, will finally summoned up the courage to see skylan, and their relationship seems to have developed smoothly.

However, the crisis has always existed. A keen audience will find that will never believed that skylan loved himself. He explained many of skylan’s words that skylan didn’t really love him.

For example, skylan said to him, “organic chemistry is useless to people like you.”. Will immediately asked who he was.

For another example, he hinted to skylan several times that he suspected that he was just a toy of skylan and a transitional boyfriend. His genius, poverty and legend would add some color to skylan’s life, but skylan, as a rich woman, would abandon him sooner or later and eventually marry a successful person.

Finally, when their love reached the first climax, it also quickly fell to the lowest ebb.

After graduating from Harvard University, skylan will continue to study at Stanford medical school, so she hopes will will go to California with her. But will refused. He thought, what if skylan finds out his shortcomings? Then she would not stand him and abandon him.

This hurt skylan. She said, if you don’t love me, you should tell me. If you don’t love me, I will disappear and never appear in your world again.

After hearing what skylan said, will immediately said, I don’t love you.

Hearing this, skylan, who lost his parents at the age of 13, bent down in pain again, and will left.

Everyone is adhering to their own logic, and everyone is looking at each other with their own logic. As a result, the more you love, the more lonely you are, because the more you love, the more you adhere to your own logic, and you can’t see the existence of each other at this time.

For skylan, she is a “good girl”, and the logic of “good girl” is not to trouble others, so tell me if you don’t love, and I will disappear on my own initiative. But for will, skylan’s words will further convince her that she doesn’t love him. She seems to be looking for an excuse to leave on her own initiative.

Skylan thinks she wants will to go to California with herself to prove that she loves him. But in will’s world, this relocation is the most terrible thing. He was first abandoned by his parents and then sent to foster care four times, three of which were severely abused. So, in his heart, he thinks that changing a home is the most terrible thing.

Therefore, when they first loved the deepest, they also encountered the most serious crisis. This is the result of their respective adherence to their own logic. Of course, it is mainly the result of will’s adherence to his logic.

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