A girl tells her mother she is a lesbian.
A woman asks a man to “do it” implying sex.
A man is seen rubbing one of his wife’s breast, at a funeral.
3 women go to a homosexual club.

An older man is unknowingly dating a 16 year-old.


Film review:Translated by www.rabudo-ru.com


I

Vera Wang, 63, ended her 23-year marriage and officially divorced. Vera Wang’s wedding dress, wedding dress and even bridesmaid dress are the most dreamy part of many girls, including myself, in their conception of future marriage. However, the designer who created this dream for countless girls walked out of marriage. Many lovely little sisters commented sadly, “I don’t believe in love anymore.”

This morning, I saw a MM who I am not familiar with but have always appreciated and commented: “I think a woman who dares to say byebye to her wrong feelings at the age of 60 deserves respect and admiration.” Delicacy bestie Collocation: almost at the same time, I saw her micro-blog: at 11 o’clock last night, the girl patiently dressed, dressed and painted the appropriate nail polish at home, but not to the man’s appointment, just to enjoy a delicious meal and a midnight leisurely mood with her girlfriends.

II

I’ve been talking about emotional topics lately.

It seems that many girls, and often girls who look very strong and independent, have been living in anxiety. Gradually, I began to notice and be surprised at the deep-rooted influence of Chinese traditional ideas on modern women. No matter how excellent, beautiful, mature, gentle, successful, and elegant a single girl is, as long as she has passed a specific age – and this specific age seems to have graduated from college earlier – the people around her, including parents, relatives and friends, Will consciously or unconsciously show an urgent and even sympathetic Psychology: you don’t have a boyfriend / fiance / husband, you can’t be a good living state anyway.

In a word: since ancient times, whether a woman’s life is good or bad has always been defined by whether there is a man around her.

Even the most excellent women will have a sense of inferiority and lack of security, which will gradually give birth to more and more panic in their hearts; They have imperceptibly changed their pursuit of life: “find a good man quickly, enter a marriage quickly, and form a family quickly”. Love and marriage, the most beautiful and warm pursuit, have instead become the root of all insecurity.

III

Some girls asked me, “if I didn’t have sex experiences before I graduated from college, am I a very failed girl?”, This topic really startled me. Then I remembered that some boys asked me, “it seems that many girls in college have sex experiences, especially girls studying in the United States. Are they more open and casual?”

The absurdity and childishness of these two questions are comparable.

It turns out that so many women are inseparable from their attachment to men; Similarly, many men are always judging their possession of women – from body to mind, they have never been independent.

IV

Since I was 18, I have been deeply poisoned by capitalism.

What’s worse, it seems that the best girls around me (American girls, especially Chinese girls, are unwilling to follow) are like Popeye eating spinach. They use endless strength and energy every day.

When I moved to the school apartment, I cleaned up all the books and sundries. Suddenly, I was not satisfied with the orientation of the room furniture. I’m about to submit a form online and ask the apartment management office to send someone to help me move the furniture tomorrow. American roommate Laurie ran over and said, “don’t look for them! I’ll help you!” Then I looked at her as if I saw Superman. She moved the all solid wood queen size bed, five storey lockers, tables and chairs one by one, and the room completely changed in 20 minutes.

Leana, another roommate, carried the small refrigerator to the third floor alone. Her boyfriend had something to do that day and didn’t come to help her. As a result, she moved the refrigerator and happily carried a toolbox to change the battery of her car. In the evening, her boyfriend came and everything was done long ago. Leana happily took a bath, put on makeup and changed a skirt for a date – at that moment, I was almost stunned: if it were in China, I highly suspected that girls would quarrel with their boyfriends.

Today’s roommate Leila (suddenly found that my roommates start with L, including my name and fate), all kinds of boy invitations continue. Sometimes I see her go out dressed up and send me a picture: “honey, I eat triple chocolate alone in Applebee. This dessert is great! You must try!” I was confused: “didn’t you go on a date?” “I think I still don’t want to make do with dating unsuitable boys. In this way, the mood of tasting delicious food will be discounted.”—— I think I must try: dress up fresh and beautiful, but just for a time for myself.

Say American girls, say Chinese girls.

There is a PhD girl who has a good family background and makes great progress in learning. When she came to Buffalo, she changed her major, piled up mountains of research and papar laboratory every day. I basically didn’t see her sleep for more than 5 hours a day. What’s more inconvenient is that there is no car, so the girl who ate spinach walked from school to wegmans / tops / Walmart to buy things, and then walked home with more than a dozen bags, thinking about academic problems while walking, and being calm and self-contained for an hour. I was shocked and said, “why didn’t you ask me to send you?” Niu looked at me naturally: “everyone has their own things, and I think I can handle it.” I remember when I first came here, I also walked from south school to target in the north to carry the rice cooker, but later I really couldn’t support it and couldn’t come back. I had to ask my elder martial sister to pick me up and the rice cooker home.

There are two girls, each with stable feelings and successful studies. But all girls’ activities or boyfriends just have something to do, they basically come alone. Happily enjoy a movie, a milk tea, and a group of girls chatting. I have also seen some girls. Since falling in love, they have basically evaporated in the crowd and can no longer find any figure. The two person world has replaced the usual collective activities between friends. All the topics are boyfriend, emotion, sweetness or sadness. After a long time, I just feel that they seem to be gradually disconnected from their real life and don’t know how to find common topics. Therefore, I was extremely surprised and surprised at the ability of these two girlfriends to balance their own life and mutual feelings:

Their attitude is that when they are studying or busy, they can shut down silently, do not contact their boyfriends or friends, and complete what they should do seriously; When the things that must be done are done well, you can adjust your mood in an instant and actively participate in all kinds of fun in your feelings and life.

The heroines of all the above stories have a common feature: I have never heard them worry about “getting married at a certain age”. Needless to say, when I mentioned the marriage of girls 23 / 24, the unified response was incredible: “are they ready for marriage?”—— Note that they did not mention age, they mentioned psychological fit and maturity.

Chinese girls have the same idea: “when we feel ready, we will naturally enter marriage. When we are not ready, it is inappropriate.”

V

The undergraduate course once had a semester of English writing, which was a research on the social status and attributes of modern women. Various papers, various discussions, thinking of various phenomena. It has to be admitted that modern society is still dominated by men. Regardless of workplace, family, life and all aspects. As a girl, I can really feel the lack of security that often comes out of my heart.

Then fortunately, slowly, I found that when you start to focus on all aspects of life and strive for every bit of life, this uneasy state of mind will be restrained slowly, and the harder you work, the more stable you will be. This may be inevitable: when you are strong, you don’t have to rely on foreign objects or others to fill the emptiness – no wonder busy girls are always full of confidence.

Vi

Like all single girls, I look forward to a person. When we are sad, we are the first to give each other shoulder and when we are happy, we are the first to cheer for each other.

There have been many opportunities to say goodbye to being single and fall in love for love, even if you know that the other party is not the right person.

But after all, I am not willing to make do with it. After all, I am more willing to wait.

I know that no matter whether the person waiting appears or not, I have to rely on myself to grow steadily in time, become what I expect, and live the life I want.

Just like the story at the beginning of the article: divorce, Vera Wang or Vera Wang.

On the contrary, as the friend commented, only Vera Wang, who has the courage to end her wrong feelings and is loyal to her life, can design the most beautiful wedding dress of love.

With or without his applause, your light will bloom.

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I googled and didn’t find the author information. In short, I didn’t write it. I just read more about the excellent people around me, but I didn’t have enough good luck to meet the right childe and agree.

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